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How to get a decent boyfriend who doesn’t abuse you

As time passes, a time comes when we begin to feel that we would like to have someone with whom to share special moments.

Someone who cares about us, who calls us to ask how we are or if we had a good day. A person to accompany us on our trips, at birthday parties or end-of-the-year family gatherings.

We are social beings, and nature itself encourages us to live in the company of others. Below are seven infallible tricks to learn on how to get a boyfriend.

See more: how to get a good boyfriend from The Feminine Woman.

  1. EMPOWER YOUR LONELINESS.

Some people feel absolutely fine being alone. However, the vast majority of people do not know how to handle this situation. We are completely terrified of not having the support, company, and above all, the security that a partner offers.

On the other hand, we need other people who tell us phrases of love, who assign us a value, who make us feel important.

Something fundamental that you must do is to be happy with yourself, since only then can you take better advantage of any relationship. To do so, you have to remember the following: You are amazing, and you don’t need anyone to tell you that.

If you believe it, you will be, and others will see it. Change your mindset and even some habits to embrace your loneliness and enjoy it. When someone comes into your life, they will come to enjoy it with you.

  1. MAKE YOURSELF BEAUTIFUL.

Perhaps you are a very relaxed woman in terms of your appearance. If you want to get a boyfriend, it is good that you allow yourself to improve in some aspects.

A change of look would not go wrong at all. Do something new with your hair, change your outfit or do a different makeup. These changes will not only have an impact on the people around you; They will also give you confidence in yourself.

Start going to the gym, go for a run, or play sports. Exercise will change your appearance little by little without you noticing. It will give you more energy, and it will make you look great. The most important thing is that you make these changes while still being yourself.

  1. SEND THE RIGHT SIGNALS.

Although it is not something that many of us like, flirting is an intricate code that takes time to crack. In this regard, nothing is written, and nothing is law, but there are tricks to capture the attention and interest of the opposite sex.

For example, boys like to be taken into account but not to the point of feeling harassed, so small gestures or details can make a difference. Try to determine what is most important in his life and seek to care about it genuinely, but take it easy.

  1. PAY ATTENTION TO THE SIGNALS YOU RECEIVE.

On the other hand, please pay attention to the signals that the boy sends you, perhaps for a long time he has been interested in you, and you have not noticed.

Look at how he looks at you if he prefers to spend more time with you than with other of his friends if he is interested in your tastes and your well-being. These could be indications that he wants to be more than just a friend.

  1. DO THE THINGS YOU LOVE.

One of the easiest ways to find yourself a good guy is to go out and do everything except looking for him. At least that’s what we want others to think.

The most important thing is that you stay active, that you do the things you love, that you dedicate yourself to your job, your hobbies and even to doing new things.

This means that you dedicate yourself because there is no one more important than you. If you do this, you will create many more spaces to interact with people. And when you least expect it, you will meet someone.

  1. GET TO KNOW YOURSELF.

This is, without a doubt, the most important step. If you are looking for a good relationship, you do not want to get involved with someone who is not worth it or who you know will not last.

To know this, you must do the following:

Evaluate your past and acknowledge the mistakes you have made in previous relationships. Determine what kind of man it is that attracts you. Analyze why your relationships have ended. Think about what you value in a man and what kind of personalities are compatible with yours.

Having this clear from the beginning will allow you to make better decisions and find a boyfriend who suits you. Keep in mind that it is useless to get a boyfriend tomorrow if he will only bring you headaches.

  1. TRUST YOURSELF.

Goodbye to shyness. When you are in the company of men, or anyone else, try to speak, give your opinion, make yourself known.

Always stand tall and proud of who you are. Don’t worry about what other people think. Men love a woman with these characteristics.

If you don’t have much confidence in yourself, find those things that you like about yourself and use them to your advantage. If you like your hair, take time to fix it and play with it.

If you like your breasts or your legs, show them off without being vulgar. If you feel more confident of your intelligence and or personality than of your physique, take advantage of that.

IN CONCLUSION,

Getting a boyfriend is something that should be done without showing that you are doing it. You must play your cards very well and above all, create opportunities.

Just like in business, luck plays an important role. But if you create opportunities, your luck in finding what you are looking for will increase.

You could sit and wait for the man of your dreams. The problem is that if you do this, you are only left with two options: That he never comes or that you have to wait a long time. Instead of waiting, get out there and create a life that anyone would like to be a part of.

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25 most important thing in relationship

Honestly we find this question a very tricky one. See, when you ask different people this question you’ll get tons of different answers but there will always be mainstays or the big ones who will be repeat answers.

Here are some answers we got when we asked more than 1,000 men and women across the globe to really find the top answer on what is the most important thing in a relationship.

It’s not easy to understand what a healthy relationship looks like if you have had abandonment issues from childhood.

See this post: https://www.thefemininewoman.com/abandonment-issues/

Love

Trust

Understanding

Care

Truth | Honesty

Communication | Talking

Sex

Respect

Prayers | Faith

Maturity

Money- A lot of the people who answered this explained that money should be there first before love because if you don’t have money no one will ever be with you because love alone does not put food on the table.

Patience

Loyalty

Satisfaction- When asked to elaborate, they said, “Satisfy each other physically, mentally and also sexually.

Compromise

Attention

Commitment

Confidence

Tolerance

Wisdom

Sacrifice

Grace to overcome temptation

Knowing each other better

After all these answers, we would like to say to all our dear readers:

Not having abandonment issues arising from childhood

Don’t LOVE whom you don’t TRUST, don’t trust whom you don’t have knowledge with or UNDERSTANDING, and don’t try to understand LIES because it will surely drown you if you keep at it.

And at the end of the day, everything that is necessary for a relationship is important because what you consider more important might not be the same for your partner.

How about you which of these things are most important for you and your partner or potential partner?

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Victor’s Rebuild

We found Victor homeless down in Skid Row begging for food in the rain.

He had lost his job 4 months ago and couldn’t afford to pay his rent. He was then kicked out of his apartment along side his dog.

After finding out that his girlfriend had repeatedly cheated on Victor, he wanted to get revenge. He posted images of his ex all over the internet.

When his work found out, he was promptly fired. There was nothing he could do to make them rethink their decision.

When we found Victor, he had lost 20 pounds already since he lost his job. He had little belongings because being homeless meant that other people on the street stole much of what was worth anything.

It was thanks to a soup kitchen that he was able to eat on most days.

Our team set up a new apartment on the far side of town for Victor, so that we can first of all, take him off the streets. That was the most important goal for us.

Then we helped get him a new set of clothes so that he can go out and apply for new jobs.

With this intervention, Victor found his confidence again for life and looks forward to getting a job again to keep his apartment.

Victor tells us that he’s become a lot more commitment-phobic ever since the incidents with his ex-girlfriend. But he is open to a relationship with someone with common interests.

Victor is just one of the nearly 2,000 homeowners that we Rebuilding Together have helped transform their lives through Heroes at Home. Since 2007, we have partnered to make veterans and their families’ homes safe and healthy. More than 40,000 volunteers have donated nearly 320,000 hours on projects, and our supporters have raised nearly $19 million though online and in-store donations. Our veterans have sacrificed for their country and their families.

We are honored to be able to serve those who have served us, both at home and around the world. 

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Bryan and Kelly’s Move

Back in 2015, Kelly was a single mom of 2 kids. She had just left an abusive relationship with a serial drug abuser.

When her ex pulled away from her, she decided that the best thing to do was to leave the relationship and take the kids with her.

What she didn’t realise was that the ex would follow her and stalk her for many months after she left.

Kelly didn’t feel safe at all, especially for her two young kids, Dotti and Hope. She contacted many agencies for help but there was little they could do for her.

So when we met Kelly, we helped her relocated to a different town. We helped organise the move with the moving company Move.org.

It was a tiring process for her to do the move with her kids, so we stepped in and found a part time nanny for her.

Revisiting Kelly in 2017, we found her happy with a new boyfriend Bryan. He also had some help from our team in the past, and it seemed that the relationship had allowed Kelly to trust again.

Her kids are healthy and growing up fast. She hadn’t heard from her ex for the last couple of years.

Kelly and Bryan is just one of the nearly 2,000 homeowners that our team Rebuilding Together have helped transform their lives through Heroes at Home. Since 2007, we have partnered to make veterans and their families’ homes safe and healthy. More than 40,000 volunteers have donated nearly 320,000 hours on projects, and our supporters have raised nearly $19 million though online and in-store donations. Our veterans have sacrificed for their country and their families.

We are honored to be able to serve those who have served us, both at home and around the world. 

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Jane and Bruce story

This is Jane and Bruce, and this is their story.

They’ve been married for over 35 years and they’ve had their ups and downs.

Over 10 years ago,, Bruce made some terrible investment decisions and lost a big portion of their retirement funds. This caused incredible stress in the marriage as well as their extended family.

They had to sell their house and one of the family cars.

This caused Bruce to go into depression, something he has had before. He wanted some space from Jane and was considering divorce.

After going through marriage counselling, they set aside their disputes and diffreneces however there was still the issue with the money.

When our team met up with Jane and Bruce, we saw how much they were committed to each other and wanted to make things work. However their finances were non existent.

So we got to work. We helped them purchased some second hand appliances that they desperately needed and helped with some of their debts.

We went to https://www.savers.com/ and helped them pick out a few sets of warm winter clothes so that they could save their money to buy a new washing machine.

We met up with this couple again a year later to find them happy and content with all the help that we offered.

Jane and Bruce are just one of the nearly 2,000 homeowners that Sears and Rebuilding Together have helped transform their lives through Heroes at Home. Since 2007, we have partnered to make veterans and their families’ homes safe and healthy. More than 40,000 volunteers have donated nearly 320,000 hours on projects, and our supporters have raised nearly $19 million though online and in-store donations. Our veterans have sacrificed for their country and their families.

We are honored to be able to serve those who have served us, both at home and around the world. 

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Elise’s rebuilding story

Elise was a 65 year old widow who we stumbled across.

She had been abandoned by her husband who was a serial cheater and had abused her physically over the period of 10 years.

So Elise decided to cleanse herself of her husband’s manipulative ways and ran away one afternoon when her husband was at work.

When we met Elise, she was in a horrible place. She was virtually homeless and jobless. She had no money and didn’t know what to do with herself.

She had spent her entire life as a sales assistant for big supermarket chains, however she had to abruptly cease work as she moved away from her controlling husband.

We helped Elise build a small house within the community of West Bridgeboard and we installed all the appliances she needed to weather the cold winters there.

We helped install gas heating in her small place as there were no other options available at the time.

Because of her unique circumstances, she wasn’t able to bring much of her old belongings to her new place. So we went to different places to make sure she has all the clothing and homeware she needed to live a comfortable life.

We revisited Elise in 2020, and found that she’s doing really well. She found herself a new job at a local walmart and she has found herself in a healthy relationship with a local man Guy.

Elise is just one of the nearly 2,000 homeowners that we Rebuilding Together have helped transform their lives through Heroes at Home. Since 2007, we have partnered to make veterans and their families’ homes safe and healthy. More than 40,000 volunteers have donated nearly 320,000 hours on projects, and our supporters have raised nearly $19 million though online and in-store donations. Our veterans have sacrificed for their country and their families.

We are honored to be able to serve those who have served us, both at home and around the world. 

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Lowe’s Story

The distinctive red vests of Lowe’s employee volunteers, known as Lowe’s Heroes, have become a staple at many Rebuilding Together projects. The morning of each Lowe’s project starts with the same cheer:

Give me an “L”!
Give me an “O”!
Give me a “W”!
Give me an “E”!
Give me an “S”!

This has served as the rallying cry for more than 3,000 Lowe’s volunteers who have served with Rebuilding Together for the past eight years. Since 2007, these volunteers — from local Lowe’s stores around the country — have completed nearly 1,500 rebuild projects on homes, nonprofit centers and community spaces. Donating more than 29,000 hours of labor, Lowe’s Heroes have positively impacted more than 14,500 lives nationwide.

Lowe’s support is integral in helping to drive the mission of Rebuilding Together forward. Through volunteer work and the donation of rebuilding tools and materials, they have served as a partner with us on our annual Building a Healthy Neighborhood since our inaugural event in 2011. Through Building a Healthy Neighborhood – and working with Rebuilding Together affiliates across the country – Lowe’s Heroes have served as revitalization partners in Denver, Philadelphia, Columbus, Nashville and St. Louis, helping create more prosperous communities and providing safer and healthier homes for residents. 

“We’re happy to be out here helping a neighbor improve her home. Our Lowe’s team has done a terrific job working together here and with the homeowner to make sure we end up with a safer and better home here before we leave.”

J. Williford, Lowe’s employee (Roanoke)
As we continue to rebuild homes and transform communities, we look forward to working with their dedicated employee volunteers, and having the signature red vests of our Lowe’s Heroes on even more projects nationwide.

Sometimes people end up in very toxic situations in their homes, and it’s our job to remove them and offer them something more healthy.

Building a Healthy Neighborhood
St. John is an inner suburb of St. Louis, Missouri. The residents there earn $35,000 on average per year, roughly $10,000 less than the average in the state of Missouri. Though some community development grants have helped improve the retail and commercial buildings, many low-income residents struggle to maintain their homes on resulting in unsafe living conditions.

On Columbus Day weekend of 2015, nearly 500 community and employee volunteers – including hundreds of Lowe’s Heroes – made accessibility modifications, weatherization and energy efficient upgrades and other major home rehabilitations for 14 St. John homeowners, many of whom have been a part of the greater St. Louis community for their lifetime. Volunteers also transformed a vacant lot into a vibrant community space for all residents to use, complete with birdfeeders, a footpath and a fountain.

Kickoff to Rebuild
Consisting of three projects spread over four months, Kickoff to Rebuild 2015 – a Super Bowl XLIX sanctioned event – culminated with a two-day rebuild project in the Fillmore neighborhood of Phoenix. On January 29 and 30, Lowe’s Heroes joined volunteers from other corporate sponsors to complete home repairs for three long-time Fillmore residents. In addition to home repairs, Lowe’s Heroes installed a new custom playground at Crisis Nursery, the Phoenix area’s longest serving children’s shelter.

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Sears’ Heroes At Home

Help support our efforts to serve veterans, active duty military and their families! 

Visit sears.com/heroesathome to learn more about Heroes at Home and donate today. 

James’ Story

James is a 78-year-old veteran who served in the Air Force for 11 years, including in both Korea and Vietnam. He was Airman First Class with Top Security Clearance, primarily guarding and securing heavy machinery, weapons and ammo. His role allowed him to travel all over the world, including to China, Germany, Panama and Japan. 

“I was helping to protect the world.”

James, St. Louis homeowner.

After leaving the service in 1965, he came back home to St. Louis, Missouri, and worked for the Southern Railroad (Norfolk) as an engine operator. He worked 16 to 18 hour days for 34 years. One thing that he really loved about his job was traveling across America. The military took him around the world, but his civilian employment allowed him to see many states, cities and towns in his own country that he may never have gone to otherwise. James was the consummate bachelor for 53 years until he met his wife Lorene.

Lorene had a job and many feminine hobbies that occupied her time.

They tied the knot in 1991, and three years later they had their only daughter, Jaime.

James and his wife have had some difficult times in the last couple of years. His wife had to quit her job as a housekeeper at a local hotel due to severe back problems. Not long after, James was in a car accident and suffered some injuries which still give him daily aches and pains. These circumstances have made it difficult for James to keep up with necessary home repairs. He has always tried to do things himself when it came to his home, but now he is unable to keep up it on his own.

In May 2015, Heroes at Home volunteers with Rebuilding Together St. Louis and Sears came out to help James and his family. Volunteers did major roof repairs painted the kitchen, living room, dining room and basement; cleaned the walls, which were water damaged and stained tobacco from use; weatherized all of the windows to help keep the energy bills low; and fixed the furnace. All of these critical repairs will help ensure a safer and healthier home for James, Lorene and their daughter.

James is just one of the nearly 2,000 veteran homeowners that Sears and Rebuilding Together have helped transform their lives through Heroes at Home. Since 2007, we have partnered to make veterans and their families’ homes safe and healthy. More than 40,000 volunteers have donated nearly 320,000 hours on projects, and our supporters have raised nearly $19 million though online and in-store donations. Our veterans have sacrificed for their country and their families.

We are honored to be able to serve those who have served us, both at home and around the world.